To: Tenchusatsu who wrote (229712 ) 4/18/2005 3:20:47 PM From: tejek Respond to of 1574043 Ted, I agree with you its not a good thing but its the reality. People who do not want to be parents or are incapable of being parents should not be forced to be them. And that's because the children pay the price........no one else. Never did I say that we should force "unwilling" or "incapable" parents to take care of their children. Such parents should give up their children for adoption. Many childless couples out there are willing to take in such children of incapable or otherwise irresponsible parents. Pregnancy is a huge drain on a woman's body. Many women are not happy about it when they want the child let alone when they plan to give it away. And do you know what a teratogen is? Its a substance that cause embryos to become deformed. Examples of teratogens are alcohol, cigarettes, pesticides, prescription drugs, etc. One study suggests that most of the violent people in our society are caused by teratogens ingested by the mother during pregnancy. Do you think a mother who does not want her child will stop drinking or doing her drugs? What is the cost to a society of a child who is born violent or a serial rapist due to teratogen abuse by the mother during pregnancy? Here's a description of Fetal Alcohol Syndrome:"Problem: Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS) is a pattern of mental and physical defects which develops in some unborn babies when the mother drinks too much alcohol during pregnancy. A baby born with FAS may be seriously handicapped and require a lifetime of special care. Some babies with alcohol-related birth defects, including smaller body size, lower birth weight, and other impairments, do not have all of the classic FAS symptoms. These symptoms are sometimes referred to as Fetal Alcohol Effects (FAE). Researchers do not all agree on the precise distinctions between FAS and FAE cases. Cause of the Problem: Alcohol in a pregnant woman's bloodstream circulates to the fetus by crossing the placenta. There, the alcohol interferes with the ability of the fetus to receive sufficient oxygen and nourishment for normal cell development in the brain and other body organs." well.com Here's what a kid with Fetal Alcohol Syndrome looks like:teratology.org images.google.com Of course, it all depends on what your definitions of "unwilling" and "incapable" are. If someone aborts a child because he or she doesn't want to shop at Costco, should that person be considered truly "incapable" of being a parent? Perhaps, but probably not for financial reasons. You don't seem to get it. I could care less about the mother. I am worried about the child. ted