To: TobagoJack who wrote (2465 ) 11/28/2005 3:03:43 AM From: Ilaine Read Replies (1) | Respond to of 217836 Speaking of nerds -- well, he thinks he's a geek, not a nerd -- my older son has an invitation from Golden Key to spend two weeks in China next summer, learning about Chinese technology, for $5K. It does seem rather expensive but I told him I would run it by you and get your thoughts if you don't mind. As for Chinese -- my father came for a brief visit with his new Chinese wife and her 14 year old son by a previous relationship (and his 10 year old son by a previous relationship.) Under the circumstances it was difficult to spend much time with her. Just not enough time, too many demands on my time. He called two Thursdays ago and drove up that Saturday -- we had a lot of things to do to get ready because we had more family coming during the more traditional time -- and he wanted me to make Thanksgiving Dinner that Sunday, which is very difficult and time consuming, and I also had to work on Monday and Tuesday which is when he left. And so I was cleaning, and cooking, and cleaning again, because we had family coming for traditional Thanksgiving day this past Thursday, plus a get-together this past Friday. Anyway she seems very nice, although there are a lot of things that didn't go well that might have been better if we had just not been under so much pressure to produce these artificial constructs. Like -- well, my day was bent out of shape that I made pumpkin pie and pecan pie using frozen pie shells, because he wanted her to learn to make pastry. I used the frozen shells because they have improved quite a bit and never fail and taste OK, and he never asked me in advance to show her how to make pastry -- which is not easy even if you are experienced. He wanted to make lobster but the store with the cheap lobster was far away and he got into a huff and bought salmon instead and she hard boiled the salmon so I was unable to eat it, although everybody else liked it. He taught her how to poach salmon on his gas stove, and my stove is electric, and he refused to show her how to poach salmon on an electric stove and left her to wing it. I did show her how to make pancakes. I tried to show her how to make hollandaise in the blender, but he wanted hollandaise from a mix. Blender hollandaise takes seconds (add hot melted butter to egg yolks and lemon juice) while the mix takes forever on the stove, beating and beating. My younger brother did watch me make the blender hollandaise and agreed it was better, so at least I planted a little seed. I don't think she really cares about hollandaise and pie anyway. Not that I blame her. Now ask me why a man who is 73 and has type II diabetes is eating pie, pancakes and hollandaise! Not to mention Rob Roys, scotch with sweet vermouth and topped off with maraschino cherry syrup. (Drinks which he showed her how to make, and will surely kill him). She does all the manual labor. He's a lazy jerk who has gotten so fat he can't even tie his own shoes. The young boy enjoyed playing Go with my husband, and we gave them a Go set when they left. He was a dear, helped me peel countless tiny onions for the dinner, which I deeply appreciated. My dad didn't lift a finger! She was impressed at how well behaved my children are. Compared to my youngest brother they are paragons of respect. I like her. Feel compassion for her and her son. I hope the situation is better for them than the situation they were in in China.