To: Lane3 who wrote (10854 ) 2/4/2006 10:55:50 AM From: Lane3 Read Replies (1) | Respond to of 541599 "Agreeing to Disagree By Robin Koerner Gulliver’s Travels is a satirical story about two factions that face over how to eat boiled eggs. The first maintains that boiled eggs should be cracked at the smaller end. Their opponents maintain that they should be cracked at the larger end: and they’re all set to go to war over it. With the “offensive” Danish cartoon, we have the modern equivalent: the large-enders (Western apologists) are apologizing to the small-enders (offended Muslims) for making a joke out of small-ending! This entire furor is premised on the assumption that we can’t dignify people by giving them responsibility for the way they choose to react to the things in their world – and especially things that they don’t like. Just as I have the responsibility not to choose to get angry at all of Islam when a few damaged individuals commit such evil acts as beheading of innocents. No one can insult me or offend me unless I choose to be insulted or offended. In denying that, I deny my own power over myself. I understand that people may not have arrived at that understanding, but since I have it, I cannot in good conscience withdraw my own free expression when no hurt was intended. Didn’t all these politicians and pundits learn this very basic lesson when they were five and got upset at a hurtful remark in the playground, and their teachers told them, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me”..? While I am the first to expound openness to those who see things differently from me I also expound my own need to be who I am. We have a right to do our truth as individuals, and as a culture, just as do all Muslims and the culture of Islam. While I will always respect the right of someone to disagree with me, and respect the equal humanity even of those who disagree with me violently, I never have to deny my own truth. Voltaire’s famous line, “I disapprove of what you say, but I will defend to the death your right to say it” will only make for a better world if we add to it, “You disapprove of what I say, but I will defend to the death my right to say it.”… In the instance of the “offensive” cartoon, no one needs to defend anything to the death. We need only politely apologize for causing unintended upset; politely explain that we do not require that the cartoon be read by anyone who is in any way upset by it, and that we respectfully disagree that our culture is worse for protecting freedom of expression where it is not imposed and does no physical harm. Then let’s let it drop and let the fire burn itself out. It’s called “agreeing to disagree” and is the very manifestation of treating everyone with equal respect. Let’s, in fact, teach by example, how not to get all excited by small things. I count the fact that I can laugh at (or at best ignore) an offensive cartoon of myself, or my god, as a mark of my own spiritual development. Someone who seeks to offend me says nothing about me and only about themselves. That really is Humanity 101. Let’s respect ourselves as much as we respect our Muslim brothers."themoderatevoice.com