To: Maurice Winn who wrote (219745 ) 2/20/2007 1:01:46 PM From: Ilaine Read Replies (1) | Respond to of 281500 The allegation that women, in general, go for "bad boys" is very odd to me. I often read it on the computer screen, written by someone I doubt gets up from the computer desk to smack his wife very often. In America, where class status can change in less than a generation, I've observed displaced young "good men" on the way up but not there yet, hankering at one and the same time for "good girls" and "bad girls" because they're confused. It's possible for both men and women to go up a rank in social class by marrying up but if a girl puts out without getting married, she's got problems. It's also possible to go down a social rank by marrying down. Whether you go up by marrying up, or your spouse goes down by marrying down, depends a lot on whether the person who marries up is capable of going up. The "bad boys" you saw were the social equals of the "bad girls" you longed for, but you married a "good girl" who was either your social equal or pulled you up a rung or two, no? It's true that violence infects every social structure but it's on a sliding scale, the lower you get, the more common. Middle class and upper class "bad guys" don't usually beat their wives, get in bar fights, commit crimes, and so on. They may not be better people but they've got impulse control. Be thankful it didn't work out between you and the "bad girls", just think how messed up your family life would be. Humans stick to their own kind. That's why DNA isn't really shifting. There are just more rich people with better opportunities to send their kids to college and invest in better technology and so forth, the things you're good at. (I've seen many a wife-beating case. Whether the woman stays or goes depends on whether she has outside resources. A woman with resources doesn't stick around for more beatings unless she is sick in the head. But a poor woman may just not have anyplace else to go.)