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To: Rainy_Day_Woman who wrote (421)	4/13/2007 2:26:24 PM
From: Patricia Trinchero	Read Replies (1) \| Respond to of 1564

I"ll ask my friend if she has any advice.........she's an RN who was diagnosed with early stage lung cancer. She will be going on a cruise with me and another gal in early June. Three of us gals are hitting Greece and Venice! After the cruise we'll be staying in Venice in a building that was once a convent! I hope the walls don't collapse It sounds like your friend doesn't want to "reach out" too much which is fine. She may get to a point where she needs to and it could be hard for her. But, you don't have to cross that bridge yet so just be aware of it, as her friend. I had to learn to let people help me as I was fiercely independent . You're a great friend to her!! Glad you liked the CD. Sista Monica has a great voice and a lot of heart. When I first bought it she was sending some of the proceeds to the Susan B. Komen foundation for breast cancer. She still might be doing that. Alot of us are in this fight together! :>)

To: Rainy_Day_Woman who wrote (421)	4/13/2007 6:57:26 PM
From: epicure	Read Replies (1) \| Respond to of 1564

I was thinking back, way back, to my mom's first bout with cancer- I was 14. And i was trying to think- what gifts would i give to someone based on what I remember? This is what I came up with- a bed jacket. i remember my mom was cold a lot- I guess it was the chemo. She used to wear her sweaters to bed, but if a friend got cancer, I'd get them a bed jacket, so they would feel pretty and warm, and some pretty cashmere socks, or some other kind of special warm socks, and some pretty slippers. I'd get them a hat, and a matching scarf, or a baseball cap- if they were more casual. My mom was tired a lot, even during the day- so she used a mask- the kind that blocks out the light. I'd put one of those in the basket- maybe one that was scented with lavender. Your friend will need some good books- my mom read a lot in bed. I would think a bed table would be a nice thing to have, if the chemo makes her really tired. My mom just used an old tray, but it would have been nice if she'd had a bed table or desk. Anyway, I hadn't thought about this time in my life for a long time, and I was glad to have the chance. I generally don't think about the times that were scary or unpleasant- but there was a lot of good stuff too. I remember sitting on my mom's bed a lot, telling her about my day, or just talking.

To: Rainy_Day_Woman who wrote (421)	4/13/2007 7:59:05 PM
From: Patricia Trinchero	Read Replies (1) \| Respond to of 1564

Here is what my controlling friend had to say: Not having control was the big thing for me and it sounds like it is with her also. I had to figure out what I DID have control over and what I DIDN’T. That was the hard part. Here are a few things I did: 1. I let up on the housework and arranged with my daugh and daugh in law who would do what when. That included my son coming down to take the garbage out for me weekly. 2. I bought some very comfortable, colorful, cheap sweatsuits. I didn’t want to hang out in a nightgown and have that “sick” persona”. So figured that way I would at least be reasonably dressed. 3. I took my anti nausea meds faithfully and that helped a lot!! 4. I also bought antibacterial hand wipes and put paper towels in the bathroom for people;e to use instead of hand towels….cut down on my chance of picking up something from anyone when my white counts went down. I hope that is helpful…does she have a husband who can help?