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To: Steve Lokness who wrote (40900)	9/2/2007 1:31:29 PM
From: epicure	Read Replies (1) \| Respond to of 541556

I don't comment on "rightness". When it comes to sexuality, as long as you aren't "hurting" anyone else (and by hurting, I mean really hurting, not "I'm offended by what you do)- it's ok with me. Now if Craig's wife didn't know what he was doing, that makes him a liar, and it has the potential to hurt her, but it still isn't "sick". I mean getting AIDS from Drug use and passing it on to your wife isn't "sick"- it's a terrible breach of trust, but I wouldn't call it "sick"- unless you infected someone on purpose- now that's sick. If he used protection when he had sex that makes him even more responsible- but it's still a breach of trust if the wife didn't know, but people make breaches of trust all the time. If my husband had sex with other men in public bathrooms I'd hope he'd tell me about it- and I'd tell him to live his dream- move to SF, find a gay man to share your life with, or enjoy the gay night life. I wouldn't want to share my life with him, but not because he was "sick", or even because he was breaking my trust, but because I would assume he couldn't possibly be happy pretending to be my husband. Now if he was bi, I'd have to think about the risks involved. I think that would be tough- since I am a little phobic about germs. But I think, since I love the guy, and we've been married 26 years as of yesterday, I'd say, "Do what you need to do, but you'll be wearing a condom at home with me." When I was younger I was more sensitive about infidelity. The idea of it bothered me more. But we've been married a long time- and I'm sensitive to the idea that men get bored. I've got a wonderful wonderful husband- if he slipped up, I'd keep him. I don't want to have to sort through piles of men to find another one of his calibre, and everyone makes mistakes, or has faults, and we humans live a long long time now. Serial monogamy is often just a substitute for playing around- and you often end up with the same number of sexual partners. Sexual wanderings just aren't a fault that get my hackles up any more. I'm a faithful creature myself- and have never wandered, nor have I any interest in doing that, so it's not projection of my own desires that makes me say this.