To: SilentZ who wrote (470279 ) 4/10/2009 10:43:09 AM From: one_less Read Replies (1) | Respond to of 1574103 Remarkable response Z. There is very little in your post that doesn’t deserve a great deal of thought and consideration, and there are several separate items that would make great topics for long discussion. I will have to just pick one item to deal with now and maybe others later.…>Nope. If you are a soldier shooting your gun it is not true that you are finger painting. Simple as that. < "What? Wow. Non sequitur City. We're in the outer reaches of Wingnuttia here..." I’m not surprised you don’t get the relevance. Until you do, we are just talking past each other. You saying I don’t want gays to have the life they choose… me saying I don’t care what life other people choose (qualifier: as long as it isn’t harming others)… The word Marriage is a separate issue. But the gun/finger painting point is the bull’s eye of that issue. I have asked myself, why Marriage? And I have answered that question for myself. I have challenged you and others on it and your response is, discrimination, bigotry, segregation, equal rights, and a slew of things related to the gay community including even the death of Mathew Shepard. Of course all of these issues are real and should be taken serious, but none of them have anything to do with the word Marriage. You have agreed with me, after quite a bit of wrangling that Gays are not denied equal opportunity, are not segregated, and though they may be hated by some straights, that is not related to Marriage. There are people in every group who hate the people in other groups. So why the word Marriage if it does not change relationships on the ground? Why not civil unions, cohabitation, civil partnership, human merger, melding, or any other synonymous term? You’ve said the damn paper doesn’t really matter. What matters so much about the term Marriage? I know, so do you. I am just willing to say it. … the hetero traditions are identified by that term. …>No one is forbidden to do what they want. The question is a definitional one. Marriage defines a traditional relationship.< "To you." To anyone who is honest with themselves and others....>If you are a soldier shooting your gun it is not true that you are finger painting. Simple as that.<... If you are a gay couple you are not doing what a traditional hetero couple is about and that is where the term Marriage is founded. Simple as that. The fact that you and others don't relate to that traditional stuff is irrelevant.