To: THE ANT who wrote (90871 ) 6/2/2012 6:09:34 PM From: TobagoJack 2 Recommendations Respond to of 218621 Dad worked on own fund raising efforts (funding for computers for kids) for charity up until 30 days before he passed on and up in 1995 at age 87 after open heart complications. 18 years before the open heart dad had a fight with cancer that was supposed to take him w/i 3-6 months and the doctors could only ameliorate the symptoms as cure was no longer possible give metastasis to spinal cord. Dad kept working. All lesions disappeared in about 3 months. Doctors said they had never seen any similar case. Mom is over 80, working at her next book, moved to w/i 10 min walk of us, spending three half days per week with our 22 months young son, walking an hour a day, meeting new friends, tripping with us and occasionally with group of friends numbering 20 who are between the ages 70 on up. Mom walks better than some 40 years young. Super. As and when necessary we shall hire for mom full time live-in help at reasonable cost of used 500 per month, a bit more if trained nurse, but not much more. I tell some of my American long term expat friends (my euro expat friends already think pretty much as I do) that they did not think through their reflexive purchases of country homes for retirement purpose, choosing to be possibly isolated and eventually unable to drive, dreaming about fishing, mostly watching tv, in effect co-terminating their lives with residual abilities to drive and care for self, and eventually suffer various gradations of 'care' in various flavors of 'homes'; When for essentially the same aggregate cost they may live as kings on their own expansive and no-more expensive ocean side beach or cliff frontage home served by several, with biggest decision each day being when to engage with what ethnic variety of massage and for how long, while watching hbo or listening to classical music, and whether to nap afterwards or not. I figure when I eventually retire, I would do exactly what I now do, as long as I have partners to do with. Once no partners, hang around a few years, watch the kids, give some unwanted advice, then go.