To: Bob  who wrote (12 ) 1/26/2015 12:54:39 PM From: MJ     Read Replies (1)  | Respond to    of 25  I am just checking in on SI this a.m.    I looked at the sites that I had written on previously.   I was drawn to this one. December and January are full of spirits for me.   It's almost like a  gathering of friends and family.  Recently I spent almost 2 years on top of a mountain in a a house that my oldest brother and his wife, the loves of his life built after retiring from super jobs in Dallas---------I never expected to be there.  Again, I was giving a piano lesson in the D.C. area when I heard of  an emergency with my brother in Arkansas.  I went for a 2 week visit and ended up being appointed by the court to replace a Temporary Guardian .  I closed up my abode and stayed for 2 years with my brother.  That is a  real story I am not ready to write. I will never regret being there as his sister, POA, caregiver, driver, cook----etc.   As POA now back in the D.C. area,  when I get relaxed and paying attention to details for him or shifting to my personal details of life.   I will get a call from the nursing/home and rehab center he was placed in after a PTSD and medical problem. Again a chapter in the book-------to be written.   This past week , I wondered why I had not heard from the staff that calls------ at 12:30 a.m. I received a call on Friday a.m. my time.    The nurse calling said my brother had --------'ESCAPED" AND BEEN OUTSIDE IN THE SMALL PARKING LOT (SMALL, MY EDIT).    i asked what she meant-----yes remaining calm and logical.     My personal reaction was 'bully for my brother".  He loves to be outside-----he has lived his life being outdoors and active.   Now what does this have to do with 'ghosts'------I am not sure.   My immediate reaction was that my brother was being viewed as a 'criminal' and not a man who has served society in numerous ways.    CRIMINALS ESCAPE:  Old people with alzhiemers  do not escape.    I was appalled at the terminology used --------by the staff person.  I will write no more.   What I do is to visualize our mother who is deceased, and ask for her guidance.