To: SiouxPal who wrote (296751 ) 11/15/2016 12:09:30 PM From: cosimo Read Replies (2) | Respond to of 361492 We are all parents of the human family. Politics and religion are often paired together in conversation. Both require a leap of faith to engage in, because they are rooted in the unknown. More often than not, they are the genesis of dissension and strife. They can be used as a touchstone for those seeking validation or security in an uncertain world. P&R ideally function at the highest levels of service to others. It only happens when the individual acts of those within the systems of P&R are motivated by a desire to uplift those they serve in ways which merge selfishness and selflessness. How can government and religious leaders act in selfish yet selfless ways? The perfect analogy and metaphor for this is parenting. We can learn to be better as a society by learning the traits of loving, successful parents. When a child throws a tantrum, how does a loving parent respond? They assess the emotional and mental condition of the child and engage with them to help them overcome their angst. They may realize the child is merely acting out in an inappropriate, childish or willful manner without a justifiable underlying cause. The parents will often remove the child to a timeout where he can think about the situation and calm down. Or, the parents may see that the child has underlying problems which require communication and understanding. They will hold their child and soothe their worries and hurt. They will help them grow and become wiser. Being a parent in and of itself is a selfless job, one that never ends as long as one is drawing a breath. It is also selfish. For when a child grows up to be a kind, considerate, compassionate, independent adult, the parents reap the rewards of a job well done. They are also freed of the responsibility for the child. Ideally and selfishly, they receive back to them that which they gave for so many years. Our leaders must learn the painful lessons that we as parents have had to learn. Punishing our children reactively out of frustration and anger never produces a positive result. Not even in the short term. For teaching reactiveness (and potential violence) as a problem solving tool only creates a society of adult children who believe might makes right. Using diplomacy, listening to all sides of an issue, being inclusive in policies and taking positive steps to heal hurts and solve problems is the glue which will hold the global family together. Make no mistake, we are indeed a nation/global family. We are a cosmic family. Those of us who are grown up, mature and wise must step forward and speak out. NOW. Our leaders must become aware that acting in their own self-interests must also include the interests of the whole family – simultaneously, interdependently. If their interests are not parallel with the interests of all, those interests must not be accepted by the whole, because in hurting your children, you harm your descendants. In destroying your home you destroy your family. Here are examples of selfish/selfless policies: - Repairing the environment. - Eliminating poverty, hunger - Universal healthcare - Reducing the world population - Education for all - Using diplomacy first, last, always - Putting warring, deadly people in a timeout through isolation and sanctions - Focus on quality of life for everyone - Recognition and acceptance of our mortality as a natural process - Respect for the interdependence of the entirety of existence, including and especially the human family All these initiatives can be executed in a win/win manner. A puzzle for us to solve! Creativity is the mother of invention. It is a no brainer how these are selfless ideas. Yet, they are selfish as well, through a delay of gratification. If we are willing to be patient, just as good parents are, we will experience the satisfaction of a job well done. The collective family of children will grow up to be independent, kind, compassionate and loving global parents themselves. We have evolved into a culture of instantaneous gratification of gluttony. Can we not see the folly of this? Our excesses only hasten our departures and create individual and collective suffering. We can turn this around, it only requires the uplifting of our consciousness and a willingness to speak out and make a difference. As young parents, we often fall back on our own experiences of how we were raised and model that parental style. This can be good, but most often not so much. In my own experience, I realized when I became a parent that there were things that I wanted to do differently than my parents did. I also discovered many, many things I wish I had done differently. Finally I realized that it wasn’t necessary to be a perfect parent, it was only necessary to be a conscious, loving one. If nothing else, it is important to teach young people to love and respect themselves and to see others as an extension of that self-love. The resources of the planet are not meant for a select few to control, with those believing they “own” them. There is no own, only steward. We must steward the gifts given to us by our Mother. These are gifts not to hold onto; they are gifts to share and re-gift to generations ahead of us. Things do not travel to the hereafter, but love does. JMHO for today. Namaste. cos