To: John Vosilla who wrote (133251 ) 4/21/2017 12:20:02 PM From: Elroy Jetson Respond to of 219926 In most places I've never felt anything but deferred to as a tall, white, good looking, christian, man. Both men and women flirt with me. It carries a lot of clout if you're polite, kind and have a ready smile. In work situations less intelligent people can easily feel I'm a threat to their authority, which I suppose I easily could be if the situation called for it, but this type expect to be treated equally, almost extra-equally, even though their ideas and assessments are not up to par. In short interactions a smile is usually enough to put them at ease, but in extended work interactions I've always had to be very careful of their exaggerated sensitivities in the real world to avoid having their feelings hurt. It's easier to avoid working with less intelligent sensitives but that's not always possible. I've also found some short people or especially unattractive people also need extra strokes when I interact with them. It's easy to spot that special anxiety on their face when they see me. It's best to avoid eye contact as a smile in their direction usually only makes things worse. You have to give them time to feel accustomed to you. Florida is a real exception where you have to be a Cuban catholic to be part of the elite. Even the Spanish I can speak is the wrong kind of Spanish and if I speak it I'm viewed with even more contempt from Cubans than if I speak English. Even being tall triggers more anxious people in Florida. Florida is the same difficult environment as Paris, where everyone seems to be anxious about their status to greater of lessor degrees. It's tiresome. I had a distant aunt who advised me to get along in Paris you should remember to be the most important person in the world. It works, but it's a game which doesn't allow you to relax.