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To: greenspirit who wrote (6400)	1/20/1998 3:45:00 AM
From: Gauguin	Respond to of 71178

Very nice post, Mike. True. >>>It really drove home the point to me that no matter how successful you are in life, if you don't have your health, it all means very little.<<< We do spend out time concerned about many things, and IMO legitimately so, but when we come up to medical realities the scale is all different. The man you described is lucky to have a wife with him, to be brave for (and with) him; it sometimes feels like you can get thru anything if there's someone who is there with you. And you really can. I've nearly been worried the way you are, altho I don't have children. It's a potent form of thought and emotion, I guess that "open eyes" or humility; I don't know exactly what it's called. The physical cost will be, or "can" be, very real. We can lose something we had before. It's "shocking". It sounds like the chances are it won't happen, but you still experience that realization. And it stays with you. I think the natural urge people have is to say think positively, it's not going to happen, and while I believe in positive thinking, there is a whole very reasonable and intelligent part of us that knows very well that we are at serious risk here. That we're talking about something "valuable". This has happened to me a number of times now, for some reason. Surgery has prevented me from spending my life in a wheelchair, but there were long periods the healing outcome was unknown. I think part of the reason I'm saying this is because I personally believe it's somewhat good to be afraid, a little. It's somehow mature to feel what you're up against, and in the back of your head, that part is watching and learning and remembering and is also the part that will bring you through the full outcome if it turns out you have to adjust your lifestyle. It's a realistic part, an intelligent part, that says, well, if it is going to turn out "that" way, then I'm going to do this. A protecting, adjusting, forward-thinking part. A happy part. It becomes calm and strong. And at the very same time, having been through this some, I would quite sincerely suggest not worrying about it much. Truly. Because your body does heal. It does have this un-mentally guided power (thank goodness it's un-mentally guided) to take care of itself. To put itself back together, especially after the magnificent structural help of surgery. And this power just works on the thing, whether we're paying attention or not, and in fact works even if we think maybe it won't and aren't really sure it's going to. It isn't real concerned about our opinion about how it's doing. It just does it. It's very automatic. Again, I'm not discounting right thinking, begging, and prayer. Toss them in. For humbling effect, if nothing else is "certain", we benefit from that. But on the other hand I don't personally think a little doubt or fear is going to slow down your body, or change the outcome; and would say don't be worried to have it. You've sort of earned it; this is probably the place where you "do". But rest assured your body whirls on a healing agenda. It's steadfast and amazing. Very compatible. Just sleep and relax a lot and feel good. Take it easy. (And don't push it. Taht's not good. Makes work.) Take your time. [Hmm...feel a little like Ann Landers here or something ~ probly should have taken this to e-mail...] And maybe other people have opinions about this ~ I could learn a little. For patches. BTW, I just spent five minutes in the mirror ~ you guessed it ~ measuring the scar on my belly, since you honed your estimate I thought I better.