To: Jane Hafker who wrote (769 ) 3/27/1998 1:49:00 AM From: Kenneth Kirk Read Replies (3) | Respond to of 1283
Jane, I don't really care about this person's attitude regarding homosexuality. My view (similar to that of Reggie White, as it turns out) is that it's a choice, not a characteristic, and it's a sinful, unhealthy, and unnatural choice. However I know a lot of good people don't share that view, and I generally think no less of them for it. However, let me tell a story. Last year I was teaching my pro bono class, as I do every month, spending an evening helping poor people deal with their child support problems, at no fee to them and for no compensation myself. An hour and a half into this class, in walks a local political gadfly, a woman who is constantly challenging local political bodies, to the point at which she must occasionally be removed by security guards. I always liked that the woman challenged things, and respected her for doing so. But she only stayed five minutes, and then left. The next day there was a message on my machine, saying I wasn't helping anybody, I didn't know what I was talking about, etc. And, if I disagreed, she invited me to call her back and discuss it. I didn't. I had instantly lost all respect for her, as there was no way she could have honestly reached those conclusions in those 5 minutes. She was just trying to instigate an argument, because she liked arguments. I don't like arguments, I only argue when necessary. It wasn't necessary, because I had no interest in her opinion of me anymore. My assumption, when I read Graystone's post, was that he was a Christian who had gotten into it with you on some other post and was carrying the battle over here. I didn't hold that against him; I know you sometimes get into wars elsewhere and, well, you occasionally rub people the wrong way. Don't take that as criticism, dear Jane, I love gadflies and curmudgeons, and I certainly love you. I'm just saying I didn't immediately assume anything negative about this fellow. I was just trying to get him into the spirit of this thread. Based on his response, I have no respect for him. Thus, no reason to care what he thinks. Thus, no reason to debate him and waste my energy. I will take my own advice to you and others, which I know I have given freely, and ignore him. I told you to do that with the anti-semites, so I will do it with this guy. Actually, now that my blood pressure has returned to normal (this post was cathartic) it seems funny. I'm pretty sure I've never been called shameless, and I know I've never been called simple before. I've been called names, but those aren't among them.