To: Kurt R. who wrote (13637 ) 6/17/1998 7:51:00 AM From: Donald E. Aken Respond to of 20681
FWIW, I lifted this comment from another thread in another place, some may find it more relevant than others. "Recently I had the good fortune to observe a group of young people play a game of monopoly. I say good fortune because it was quite an education for me. As the pre-game preliminaries were under way ( counting out equal amounts of money and establishing ownership of individual token pieces ) there was joking and laughter and lots of free flowing vibrant life. Fun and joy was being had by all. At the first throw of the dice the focus became narrowed and the concentration riveting. The board was now the focus with much less free flowing attention. Camaraderie was beginning to limit itself to the game only. As the game progressed and the players began to accumulate property and spend their money, slowly the sense of equality began to change to that of inequality. Stress became more evident. Occasionally, a rogue player was reprimanded into compliance, usually with threats of expulsion or monetary penalty. This method worked best if all the other game members were in agreement with the demands on the rogue player. As time passed, increased stress, tension, and various negative emotional affective responses were apparent. The players not fairing so well exhibited the most observable stress responses. The players doing well appeared to be exuberant, confident, and content. As more time passed an increase in complaints could be heard. More groans of despair and increased dissatisfaction were quite obvious. The players that were winning gave superficial encouragement to the losers while quietly grinning to themselves knowing that they were reaching a point where they couldn't or wouldn't be beaten at the game. Shortly, thereafter, one of the players was very disheartened and said he was quitting. By this time one player in the game had emerged as the power broker or controller of the money and property. Another player was doing ok and another player was barely staying above board. This latter player also said he was quitting. The winning player became obviously stressed and pleaded with the others to continue playing. Not getting the response he wanted he began to badger and ridicule the players that were quitting. The two that were quitting said he could have their money ( he already had their property ) they just didn't want to play anymore. The winning player became desperate and coercive but to no avail. The two that left the game quickly regained their composure, began to loosen up, laugh, joke, and have fun as they left the room. The player that was the power broker continued to defame the two that left and said he wasn't going to play the game with them anymore and was obviously ill at ease. The player that was doing fairly well could see that the one's that left were having fun and she wasn't. She evidently made a decision that it was not in her best interest to continue playing. She said she was also quitting. The winning player was furious and began to ridicule her for quitting. She said "I don't know why you are mad at me, you have the most money, and now you can have mine too." She then left to join the others. The winning player grumbled to himself as he put the money and the game back in the box. I thought to myself, Is he the winner or the loser? If he was the winner he sure wasn't happy about it. He looked more like he should have been the loser. It must have been the control over others and the various ramifications of that that made the game enjoyable for him. Here he sat with all the money but wasn't happy. What was missing? Then it became obvious he didn't win the money they gave him the money and left the game to pursue other individual fun and enjoyments. He was demoralized and defeated. The others were back to experiencing free flowing, vibrant, joyful existence, unhindered by someone else's game rules. They were the winners. They had inadvertently defeated the power broker by capitulating and withdrawing from the game. The winner was defeated yet still had won the game. However, soon he also regained his composure, his face lightened up in anticipation, and he was off to pursue enjoyment with the others. As I sat alone in the empty room staring at the table and the monopoly box, so static and lifeless, I wondered how many times this game had been played before? How many thousands of years has this game has been played? How many times has humanity sacrificed or given up it's joy and love of life in favor of the game? I saw those young people before and after the game alive with love, happiness, and joy. But during the game they appeared to experience so much negative emotion. Is this what the game does to us? Does it rob us of our ability to experience love, peace, and happiness? I think not. I think it is more our willingness to switch or change our priority from that of our innate love in and of life to that of the pursuits of the game. Which came first? Which is natural and freely given to all? And which has the only meaningful real value? Can we do both without one infringing upon the other? I think so. I hope so. I know so."