To: Lizzie Tudor who wrote (989 ) 8/28/1998 2:00:00 PM From: j_b Read Replies (1) | Respond to of 67261
re: alternative marriage - I must admit to some surprise here. I have been in the long-distance type of relationship before, and although both my partner and I found our professional lives fulfilling, we also enjoyed our personal time together, infrequent though it might have been (weekends only). At no time did we even consider the lifestyle the Clintons are living. We have both a romantic and intellectual bond. I am still with that person, after 25 years, and no longer have to put up with the long-distance aspects of the relationships (that actually only covered about 4 years of the relationship. I am not belittling the Clintons or their choice of lifestyle, but I think that people not wanting to make a commitment should not get married. The problem I'm having here is the concept of alternative marriage. Marriage is marriage - you take the vows, you live the life. Personally, I never took the vows - don't feel the need to swear to something so personal. A business partnership of the sort you describe is just not a marriage, IMHO. Maybe that's the raw nerve that's being struck here - some people feel that the push for gay rights and domestic partner laws (San Francisco being a great example), the increased separation of religion from public affairs (in some people's opinion), the increased ability of the government to take away a parent's ability to raise their own children, availability of abortions, etc, make some people feel that families are being diminished. The Clinton version of marriage is a very large step in that direction, belittling the institution of marriage and commitment. I'm guessing here, but I doubt that most of America would agree with the concept of an open marriage.