To: jbe who wrote (6812 ) 9/24/1998 10:10:00 AM From: Tommaso Read Replies (2) | Respond to of 13994
I seem to have become a subject of discussion on the thread! I wish I could participate in this interesting discussion, but I was cautioned by the webmistress Jill not to do so because a certain person complained that I was traducing, insulting, casting aspersions and slurs, and so forth. Of course, to deny that I was doing any such thing meant that I was questioning the veracity of the person who has now called me a piece of excrement. I mean, if I am obviously a piece of excrement, to deny this would be to suggest that the person who called me that was incorrect. And to be called incorrect is a most serious accusation. If I now disappear from SI, it will be because this rather indirect reference to someone will have produced another complaint to the authorities who operate the system, who will then terminate my membership. Which might, in fact, be the best thing they could do for me. Meantime, I thought I might add something to the Clinton discussion. I was very surprised to learn from a woman, who is exactly of Clinton's generation and with whom I was having a rather intimate conversation, that in her opinion oral sex was a substitute for the "real thing." That is, it was just something one did that stopped short. Perhaps an extreme form of "bundling." Or making out. This was not my view, but apparently some people really see it that way. She had spent years ago an entire weekend in a hotel with a man at the end of which they both considered that they had not actually "had sex," though they had done all sorts of other things. I think such a view must reflect something profoundly wrong with American attitudes towards sex.