To: Volsi Mimir who wrote (9075 ) 10/12/1998 4:59:00 PM From: Borzou Daragahi Respond to of 67261
The NCSAC's description of sex addiction appears to fit Bill's behavior:"The key elements of any addiction, whether chemical or behavioral are: 1.Compulsivity- meaning loss of control over the behavior - i.e. continuing to engage in a particular behavior after repeated attempts to stop. 2.Continuation despite adverse consequences, such as loss of job, money, marriage, or health - or arrests or public humiliation. 3.Preoccupation or obsession with obtaining and using the substance or participating in the behavior to the detriment of other essential life activities or goals Addictions are defined not by how much of the drug or behavior is used, but rather the effects on the person's life. An addiction can be suspected when the behavior has made the person's life unmanageable. Some clues regarding sex addiction are: 1.The problem behavior is not an isolated occurrence; there is a pattern of this behavior over a significant time span. 2.Despite a previous significant adverse consequence, the behavior is repeated. Sexual decisions do not appear to be made on a rational basis. 3.Increasingly greater risks are taken over time. For example sexual encounters may initially take place only out of town, but later closer to home. 4.The person denies to him/herself and others that there is a problem when it is evident to others, utilizing minimization, rationalization and justification to continue to engage in their behaviors while trying explain the problem away. For the sex addict, sexual behaviors that are secretive, illicit or dangerous carry an even greater internal experience of intensity or arousal (high)which thus encourages irrational choices. This is no different than the compulsive gambler who will gamble far beyond his/her limit to do so, aroused and distracted by the intensity of the process. Some sexual behaviors that may represent an addictive disorder are: 1.Multiple extramarital affairs 2.Using a position of power to gain sexual access to multiple partners. 3.Use of prostitutes, escorts and sexual massage 4.Indecent telephone calls 5.Excessive expenditure of time and money on pornography/cyber and phone-sex 6.Multiple anonymous sexual encounters 7.Touching others without permission