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Pastimes : Another Good Reason Not To Be Married -- Ignore unavailable to you. Want to Upgrade?

To: Elmer Flugum who wrote (2787)	11/3/1998 8:56:00 PM
From: Edwarda	Respond to of 6545

Hi! You have thrown a lot of stuff at me to think about and try to answer. "The society is full of BS, and I find it refreshing tospeak clearly and straight up. If you consider...." Did I suggest that I find it negative? I think that my postings, here and elsewhere, should illustrate that I do the same. (I have been described as honest to the point of bluntness.) For me it is not only positive, it is the only way to live, up front with all of it. At the same time, I recognize that lots of perfectly decent and attractive people have to go through a weird sort of mating dance--even for friendship--that is the equivalent of the salt flats in Utah. Unfortunately, too many people need a proving ground, even for friendship. "it is understood...." All I can say is, don't fall into the women's movement trap of suspending your judgement in the service of an idea formed by some experiences. By way of a quick aside, I am a feminist, but most feminists would not only not recognize me, they would spurn me. I am closer to Camille Paglia than is comfortable for most of my friends. So I do believe in free speech rights, especially when it is something "they" do not want to hear. (Hey, I am one of the senders of blonde jokes. I am blonde, but I appreciate a good laugh and PC be damned!) "[If the man, who finds communicating...]" It is an emotional minefield--see my earlier posting about the usual "boy/girl stuff--while people try to check one another out. As for the withholding you obliquely referecnce, this is not healthy behavior and you are right to be put off by it. Sneaky question and just to understand: Aside from the subliminal information we all provide and are so astonished when our lovers don't read what was so obvious to us, have you tried to share more and found the self-absorbed "I want to be loved for myself" that offers no love in return? As for friendships, I have always found they are hand-offs. I hear you and you hear me--which is what I mean by loving. It does happen. "You say something she does not want to hear...." This reaction is attributable to men too! I am sure I am not singular. I do not withhold if I feel poorly understood. I keep on sharing all of who I am. Do you do this or simply cut bait?