To: Grainne who wrote (26114 ) 11/27/1998 4:48:00 PM From: George S. Montgomery Read Replies (4) | Respond to of 108807
Christine, I listened to a Public Radio program this morning ("On The Line," WNYC) that caused my thoughts to turn to your and penni's current concerns with offspring... It is true irony that you two admirable - each in her own way - ladies find ruffled harmonies within your most intimate circles. The radio program was an interview with the boss of Who's Who in Highschool. (http://dmarie.com/asp/history.asp?action=process) No! Damnit! That URL is a fun one I had in copy/paste - about just what was happening, who was born, and such on anybody's birthday. Give it a shot. The Highschool URL is >>http://www.honoring.com.<< And its only relevance is in its recent survey's finding that 80% of the cream of our hs students have cheated, they and their parents approving of that process; and that the biggest threat they feel is of social and moral decay; and more than 90% consider themselves happy. But that is only more evidence. You both have evidence within your homes. I have evidence with my most recent brood. A very dear old friend of mine has evidence with her children. Evidence is all too overpowering. I write to offer the thought that there is probably very little cure for the problem. It, I believe, is societal. The generation that is now beginning to appraise itself is saying "me happy" (above); "me gonna do anything me feel like" (freedom to); and "nobody gonna stop me" (freedom from). I was terribly disappointed by the movie "Titanic." It seemed one-dimensional, lacking true drama, and carried by soap opera and special effects. Thought I was way off base until I heard another oldie say about the same thing after the movie in the men's room. Texture, subtlety, delicacy, innuendo, grace, romance - all the softer things - are so weak in the world of these kids. (Sadly, it appears to have happened in the chic new metropolitan China. I used to love the tradition and spirit of that vast society. But, a single generation seems capable of burying such venerable traits.) I will stop this train, as it doesn't seem solidly on the tracks, with a statement of deep conviction: The spirit, the defiance, of the 60's was directed, to a great extent, at producing results - at standing for causes. That spirit, that defiance, has continued - but without the causes. It has become nihilistic and hedonistic, defying everything that defies it. I believe it, environmentally, has produced a different breed. A lesser breed. A breed that will identify more with its uncivil, anarchistic contemporaries than with those who love, and, because of that love, urge moderation. I close by saying that we - you, penni, me - have pretty positive attitudes about our selves. So, when our offspring fail to respond to those 'selves' with respect, we shrivel. But, it ain't us, Christine. It's the whole idea of the extraordinary extension of civil rights into both opening the floodgates, and preventing them from being shut. geo