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To: Rambi who wrote (16997)	1/26/1999 12:14:00 AM
From: Ilaine	Read Replies (1) \| Respond to of 71178

>>>>>I wish I could start all over again. My kids think that's the stupidest thing, among many, that I've ever said.<<<<< Would it be starting all over again? Because you would still be the same person. Or not? I think to myself, I can't reinvent myself another time. The difference, as far as I can see it, would be between solving other people's problems for them, and helping them solve their own problem. For example, if you want a will, fine, that's more or less straightforward. You need a lawyer. But, what if you want to cut someone out, say for some bizarre reason you wanted to leave money to one child and not the other. Then, I don't think you need a lawyer, I think you need a psychologist. I started thinking about psychology back when I did a lot of divorces, and I thought that law was just the stupidist thing to use to deal with the problems of the human heart. Then, when I got rheumatoid arthritis, I thought, well, psychology might be a way to make a living without having to go forth and do battle every day. For a while I was having fun making money in the stock market, but I miss the interaction with people. I could go all the way, get a Ph.D., make a living counselling people, but I wonder if I really could do it, or if I would still want to jump in and solve their problems for them. Kinda like teaching school, you let the students to the work, you don't do it for them. If you went back to school, what would you study? My sister's mother-in-law got a Ph.D. in clinical social work and got a job just about the time her husband retired, and I think it was wonderful for her. She is a lot older than you or I.

To: Rambi who wrote (16997)	1/27/1999 11:29:00 PM
From: Ilaine	Read Replies (4) \| Respond to of 71178

OK, penni. I did it. I signed up for classes in Conflict Analysis and Resolution, at George Mason, as an Extended Studies student, and am going to apply for the Ph.D. program for the fall. I went to the first class in Conf 501, Introduction to Conflict Resolution, tonight, and it was - - OK. It felt really crappy to sit down in one of those stupid chairs because my bloated prednisone stomach was pressing against the writing table thingie, and my swollen knees wanted a break sooner than they got one. But, I can handle it. I wasn't the oldest person in the class. And, when the instructors asked the students to introduce themselves, another woman who talked before I did was a lawyer. The instructors joked about it, they said, "recovering lawyers," so apparently it is not unheard-of for lawyers to go into the program. I spoke to the other woman afterwards, she does insurance defense, but she had shingles, which is stress-related, just as the rheumatoid is. Not so different from yours truly. We agreed, it would be nice to make a living without beating our heads against a stone wall every day. I realized that what I wanted, most of all, was to be around people, and to help other people. I seem to have lost sight of that.