To: Sidney Reilly who wrote (31259 ) 2/19/1999 4:21:00 PM From: nihil Read Replies (2) | Respond to
No excuses for me. One thing I regret is that I never had the guts to engage in sex with many of boys and young men who approached me for sex. I had a generalized lust for human beings when I was young, and had it been permissable I would I'm sure enjoyed having sex with any of the girls and many of the boys that I knew. Part of my reluctance was ignorance -- I never understood the sexual possibilities with men until it was too late and I'm sure I could have overcome my initial disgust at fellatio or sodomy if I had had the chance. With girls I had the same problem. When I was young women were deathly afraid of vaginal sex because pregnancy destroyed both a girl and boy's life. There was no safe available abortion. A girl who slept with you was saying in effect that you must marry me if I get pregnant. I don't belief I knew a girl who would give head until about 1955.
As for the studies, you can start with Kinsey (1948). He shows that young married men have about 10% their sexual outlet in homosexuality. Do you think that's amazing? I do. Unmarried men have a much higher rate of homosexuality and its gets higher as the age goes up, so that 38 per cent of single men 36-40 have homosexual relations to orgasm in an average week. I am astounded, and I know that later studies reduce the figure, but it seems an even bet that an unmarried middle-age man is highly homosexual.
As for kids -- I worked in armies, camps, and schools and there are always a few openly homosexual boys cruising and seducing. I can see in my classes open homosexuals who openly hit on their classmates. It was necessary in the past to have detailed studies (like Kinsey in the penal institutions) to measure the incidence of situational homosexuality. Today, you need only ask. I believe that the higher the socioeconomic status the higher the proportion of practicing homosexuals. Nothing like a good exclusive boys prep school to develop and bring that trait out. When I was young the elite went to Exeter and Andover and then to Princeton, Yale and Harvard. If you wanted sex and as remember most of us did, the choices were limited pretty much to your self or your roommate. Many roommates stayed together for 8 years. I've never read an autobiography of any of these guys that told the truth, but I assure you there were many men that we considered to be stable couples, who never flaunted their relationship whatever it was, but appeared (appeared I say) to one who casually observed to be unbreakable. Yet nearly all of these people married and raised families. Undocumented, this part of American sexual sociology, is likely to disappear unremarked on. Not to mention lumber camps and construction crews.
