To: Ish who wrote (18472 ) 3/6/1999 10:14:00 AM From: Rambi Read Replies (3) | Respond to of 71178
Well, now that we're talking about death-- My mother planned her funeral down to the last detail. Her obit was written, all the antiques were labelled--what was to go to whom. She had carefully distributed her jewelry among her friends earlier. SHe was a controller par excellence --which might explain why my house is a disaster and my life tends to be somewhat(!) random. Before her final surgery, she put her best cloth on the dining room table, and laid out the silver with little labels saying what food went on what tray. SHe was afraid her friends would screw it up if she died and wasn't there to tell them what to do. On the night she died, at home, with my brother and me holding her hands, I found in her desk drawer her engagement ring with a tiny silver bow tied on it and a little card with the date Daddy had given it to her and my name. It was that little bow that completely devastated me. But because she'd been in a coma, she left no final words for me to remember her by-- although before she went into the coma, she did mention that I looked like I was putting on weight. And she also accused the doctor of trying to kill her. And she asked the minister if she could guarantee that there was a God and was not happy with the answer. SO what words do you wish to be remembered by as you cross over? Et tu, Brute.(Caesar) I regret that I have but one life to lose for my country---(Nathan Hale?) I am still alive! (Caligula after being stabbed to death) Codeine---bourbon (Tallulah Bankhead) I am about to -- or I am going to -- die: either expression is correct. (Dominique Bouhours, French grammarian)