I wouldn't say my actions towards my brother caused no harm. I really can't talk about his problems, he does have them, more than most, perhaps, but it's impossible to say that I caused them. We had a tough time, growing up. My parents went through a very rancorous divorce. My brother and one sister went to my father's house for weekend visitation when I was about 13-14, and he was about 6, and my father got an emergency custody order which froze the status quo, so my other sister and I stayed with my mother. We were afraid to visit with my father because we were afraid we'd never be able to come back, and really I haven't spent much time with my brother since then.
I think "F you!" is sometimes a good thing to say, but rarely for me has it been the right thing to say. I know I've said it when I shouldn't, and not said it when I should have.
Were you married once? Do you have children? It's hard being away from family during the holidays, especially at Christmas. That's very rough. I really miss my grandmothers, I wish they were alive, I wish I'd spent more time with them when they were alive. |
