What's more relevant to me than her age is her marital status. Willey was married, and Clinton knew her husband.
For the sake of argument, let's not that Willey's husband was in BIG trouble. She was probably furious with him. Might her anger have made her receptive to the attentions of another man?
Also, I'd say that morally, any man who makes a play for another man's wife should be publicly called to account for his actions, wouldn't you?
No. It's a private matter. And I think that here you're coming dangerously close to suggesting that a wife is her husband's possession.
How about the accusation of groping the breasts of another man's wife, placing her hand on his engorged penis?
Why did she get so close to him? If I go into a man's office (or a woman's, for that matter) for a talk, I normally say hello and take a seat. Yes, I know he reportedly lured her into a hallway. There's much about this that I don't find very convincing, but there's really no way of verifying the principals' differing stories.
How do you think a husband should respond when his wife comes home from work and relates this story to him? What do you think his
feelings, his emotions, his instincts, his sense of decency and outrage will demand? Or are all of these things only his personal problems, which a man is obliged to keep to himself, trivialities that should be of no concern to another man who is simply seeking his own personal pleasure, which after all, according to you, is "his business?"
I see two possible real-life scenarios here (this isn't, of course, what happened in the case of Willey, whose husband had been missing for several days). 1) If the husband is the jealous and possessive type, the wife probably won't mention the incident. She will, after all, already have dealt with it. Big deal. 2) The husband is a reasonable person, and the two enjoy a good relationship. In this case they'll have a laugh over it, mixed with mild annoyance: "And you know what the silly jerk did THEN???" (This actually did happen to me once, though not with a husband. A friend of my then boyfriend tried to put the moves on me one evening, much to my surprise. I made it clear I wasn't interested, and my boyfriend and I had a chuckle about it. No high drama, and why should there have been?)
Do you consider men who attempt to seduce the wives of other men to be worthy of love?
Men who attempt to seduce the wives of other men are unlikely to persist in this activity unless they find their attentions are reciprocated more often than not. I sense once again in all this that you see a "wife" as being somehow owned by her husband. Let's consider the opposite case. A married woman comes on to a married man. He rejects her; tells his wife about it. What's supposed to happen next? Public accusations? Court cases? I really don't think so.
People who are happy in their marriages usually don't go outside them for sex. Sure, if Clinton hit on Willey, especially in what was for her a vulnerable moment, he was being a jerk. But there are a lot of jerks out there who are competent in their professions.
Whatever affairs he has had were presumably not coerced. And so? They should be considered the business of the participants. Not of the public and of the media. |
