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To: Gauguin who wrote (41899)	11/16/1999 2:41:00 PM
From: Edwarda	Respond to of 71178

I think that I understand very well how you feel. You see, my mother died of cancer, a cancer that she thought she had beaten and that roared back to kill her with amazing rapidity. When I was a child, a good friend died very suddenly of leukemia. My mother-in-law also died of cancer as have several adult friends in recent years. On the other hand, my father survived asbestos-related cancer and lived to raise hell for another 20 years. I have a close friend who was diagnosed with bone cancer, completely hopeless, when he was 17. He is 47 today; he is married with a lovely family and only the normal day-to-day worries we all have. Another friend's son seems to have won his battle with leukemia. These people's survival gives me the wherewithal to encourage hope. I think that it is natural that one's first reaction should be a sick feeling of fear. But if you can't muster the strength to fight for the chance to go on with life, then it's over before it's even begun. There is so very little we can offer jp right now except our moral support. I too feel helpless.

To: Gauguin who wrote (41899)	11/16/1999 4:52:00 PM
From: Rambi	Read Replies (2) \| Respond to of 71178

jp knows very well how much you care, Gaugs. And we all know what you've been through and that you-having been there- do know more than all of us about the volatile and manic-depressive emotions that come with a serious diagnosis. We just watched our loved ones go through it; you were the loved one. So make no apologies! I think we are all beaten down in some area of our lives at some point- some place where we can't summons up the belief that all will be well, no matter how hard we try. And it's then that maybe other people can pick up the slack and transmit some energy or just take over. Beth, my friend that I know we talked about a lot last summer, is doing really well. It will always hang over her, but she is now "normal" again. She wrote a beautiful Christmas letter to all of us, and talked about how the most helpful thing was the laughter, and the loving touch of those around her, that people weren't AFRAID to cry with them, or to make jokes AND to talk reality. There is a need for it all.

To: Gauguin who wrote (41899)	11/16/1999 7:00:00 PM
From: jpmac	Read Replies (2) \| Respond to of 71178

Aw, Gaugie. I think I know what you mean. People die. And what you are saying may be something like what I think about not hoping about results. They'll be what they'll be. Certainly we can try and support him through the nasty stuff of chemo and listen to his worries. But then.. I remember when we went up to the river when my friend drowned but they hadn't found her yet. Everyone kept spinning tales that would have her being found the next day. Like she was washed up on shore and was walking around the woods in a daze. I just kept my mouth shut and nodded now and then. "Um, she's been dead for hours" wouldn't go well. They're hopes got them through the night. They would have just made me crazier. Different brains. Gotta run to writing group. Later, bud. Spinspin.