To: Frederick Smart who wrote (86054 ) 8/22/2000 1:00:29 PM From: jbe Read Replies (3) | Respond to of 108807 Frederick, take another look at this particular post to X, and tell me honestly whether passages like the following do not make invidious assumptions:Very simple X. Just look around you. Stop creating fear. Start embracing risk which mirrors the joy and love of life. The more we risk and take responsibility the more we embrace the present moment the more energy we have to share with others. It's an upward spiral that keeps expanding. Try it. Two clear assumptions here are that 1) X creates fear; and 2) She needs to try "it" (embracing risk & taking responsibility). Here is a passage from a post X recently wrote to someone else, which should indicate to you that such assumptions would be incorrect:Power without the will to use it can merely be a recognition of the immorality of inflicting power on those who have no power to resist. The WILL to use POWER is what causes more problems than it solves, imo, and always has done. I rarely use POWER with my children. I have no WILL to get into a power struggle with them. If you do not consciously make such assumptions, then perhaps you can save the day by using the word "one" (or "we") instead of "you" (As in: "One should look around oneself and stop creating fear" or "We should all look around ourselves and stop creating fear.") Sounds clumsy and pretentious, perhaps, but at least the addressee would not take personal offence. Again, on my own assumption that you really do not want to give personal offence, perhaps you should stop talking so much about your own experiences and start displaying an interest in the experiences of others. How can you "learn" from others on this board, if you don't know, or even appear to care, what kind of people they actually are, what kind of views they actually hold, how they differ from one another? Your "one size fits all" approach doesn't allow for these differences, and gives the impression you are talking to an undifferentiated audience, not to an individual. Make fewer pronouncements, and ask more questions. jbe