To: epicure who wrote (1045 ) 1/15/2001 2:29:12 PM From: cosmicforce Read Replies (3) | Respond to of 82486 Put an end to this! Just say Smooch! Make your peace with these people. They need to know that you are TRULY sorry that you hated someone alive who is now dead or at the very least, don't say anything true about them now that they have died. Otherwise you will continue to be threatened with physical violence. That's just the way people are. You don't want them into their "reptilian midbrain" when it comes to highly charged emotions. Now, would I be offended if someone said my Dad was a jerk and they didn't want to go to his funeral? No. My Dad can be a jerk. I love my Dad but truly he can be a jerk. He'll even say so himself. It may be genetic. Only a hypocrite wouldn't know that this gene is dominant in humanity and that most people express it to some extent, but most don't have the gene that allows them admit it. Let me explain how beatification works: miracles, suffering, and martyrdom. Finally, group approval seeking and devotional belief to the symbolism of the martyr. I'm not sure what it is you are supposed to do to satisfy the balance that you've upset. Experience hostile ice-picking of your head by your detractors? No. I think you need more lessons. Clearly you don't understand what you are supposed to do - 1. say you love someone you didn't 2. don't say anything bad about someone dead 3. recognize dying cleanses sins and personal vice 4. expect people to defend their saints 5. act retarded But seriously, if you don't mind the friction with the reptile brains of others, you can stick to your guns (which I actually will defend from a purist POV), or you can refuse to discuss it with them. I'd choose the latter, if it was me.