To: Rambi who wrote (76069 ) 10/1/2003 7:03:41 PM From: Lane3 Read Replies (1) | Respond to of 82486 Thanks, mom. <g> Karen thinks Auntie was acting reasonably attending the wedding dressed as she was. That would not be the case had she reason to expect that the mother of the groom would react so strongly. But if the bride's family invited her knowing how she would dress, presumably the bride had evaluated the situation and deemed it OK. It certainly should have been OK, IMO. I can't imagine getting all upset at the way one of my guests dressed, although I understand that there are others who are all wrapped up in such superficialities, which are very important to them, and that is to be respected to a point just as Auntie's oddity is to be respected to a point. I wonder about someone who would take Auntie's dress as an insult, at least one worthy of more than a brief reaction. Way too many people getting way too insulted way too easily, IMO. The healthier reaction, seems to me, is to judge Auntie negatively, if one really cares, but not consider it a reflection on the mother of the groom. Like, everything's not all about her. Still, weddings are stressful so the mother of the groom may not be at her best and that's understandable. Likewise, I think Mojo is acting reasonably servicing just those clients that he feels qualified to service. It would be different if he opened up a storefront with a sign saying "no whatevers allowed." But as long as he functions under the radar, getting clients through word of mouth, I think he is being reasonable. Unlike Auntie, though, he does run the risk of a law suit in which he probably wouldn't prevail. He's foolish if he doesn't recognize that. I'm predisposed to let oddballs be oddballs as long as they don't do any real damage. I can't say that I particularly admire either one's oddities, but I can tolerate them both, probably accept Auntie's since she's not goring any ox of mine. Mojo is at least poking at my non-discrimination ox, so my reaction to him is limited to tolerance.