To: Neocon who wrote (76165 ) 10/2/2003 12:49:42 PM From: Lane3 Read Replies (1) | Respond to of 82486 You do not think that childishness in a middle aged man probably reflects on his character? I don't recall Mojo's age ever being mentioned. I assumed him to be a young man, although I don't really know why. Perhaps it was his not-exactly-sophisticated views. I suppose he couldn't be too young since he already had an established business, but he sounded like early to mid twenties. I thought him a few years older than my neighbor who just finished her training. She appears to be maybe twenty. I've been noticing stories about this trend toward chastity in young people. It seems reasonable to me for a young, chaste man to have Mojo's attitudes. I don't see anything negative, character wise, in that. Inexperienced. Idealistic. Sheltered. All that does seem silly to sophisticates, but silly isn't a character defect. I made the point during the discussion that, when I was a sweet innocent thing, I had trouble differentiating sexual situations, so it's not hard for me to explain it away as youth and inexperience. It seems strange to me that any young man wouldn't have a better feel for how the mainstream operates than that, but if he had been raised in a fairly closed community, had his TV use monitored, and was home schooled or the product of a religious school, he could reach the age of having a profession without achieving greater sophistication in such matters. So, no. I don't think that there's a negative reflection on his character. At worst, he's a bumpkin. Not complimentary, but not a negative regarding character. You are much nicer than the average HR person Just for the record, I was not an HR person, average or otherwise. If I seem "insincere, condescending, and manipulative," I achieved that without the excuse of my profession. My career was spent in management information systems and management, both line and staff, and most recently in internal management consulting. If you want a quick category for my line of work, something along the lines of what used to be called an "efficiency expert" might do. You might find it interesting to know that everyone at EPA was trained in consensus processes and expected to operate that way. Team, team, team. Collaboration, collaboration, collaboration. Perhaps the people EPA regulates don't see the results, but the training and the emphasis definitely happened. Re the rep of HR, I recall your telling me once before how much your wife and her colleagues disliked and distrusted the consensus folks.This has caused a longstanding sense of suspicion and grievance. I appreciate your sharing your insight. Since I have always been one of those people that others naturally trust--I mentioned earlier, cats, dogs, children, little old ladies, even union reps--I have grown to assume it and was having difficulty making sense of Jewel's reaction. So your insight helps. Actually, I do take Jewel seriously, but I'm sure there's no way I can change his impression.