To: Tenchusatsu who wrote (196326 ) 8/1/2004 4:41:52 AM From: Amy J Read Replies (1) | Respond to of 1571680 Tenchusatsu, RE: "but that's cold comfort as our expenses are much higher now than I ever imagined them to be." You both should create a household annual budget, if you haven't already. At a minimum, an annual figure for savings, investing, expenses and income. For most years, I lived on half of my take home pay, and saved the rest. Also did this back when my income was tiny - but I made huge sacrifices - have you ever lived in an apartment that's so cheap, you wake up one morning only to learn a murderer dumped a dead body in the outside dumpster located only a few yards from your apartment door? I've also lived where 3 of us were crammed into one small bedroom in order to divide the rent bill by 3. I kept my previous car until my mechanic pleaded with me to get rid of it (which I did, with a trade of Intc leaps.) I wore the same NY Eves outfit for many years and it was an eye sore for some (cheap plaid skirt, not a nice velvet blue expensive dress.) Finally, someone at Microsoft complained about it and I made them pick out a new dress - which I still have. Many years ago, I started a whole life insur $500/mo (i.e. which may be $700/mo in today's dollar) and it consumed a large portion of my take home pay back when I first started it (even my insurance agent told me I should "live a little"), but I did this specifically for grad school savings so a child of mine has the money for higher education. The cash portion of it that may be taken out (while still maintaining the policy) is now around $70k or so (the interest rate was super good back then - I can't believe they're still paying at that fixed high rate). Now the rates aren't too good, so am putting on hold any increase I'd like to do on whole insurance. (Whole life insurance was the only way I figured out how you could save for a child's college BEFORE the child is born, where growth is tax deferred.) RE: "getting married" Buying an expensive house is probably the reason, not marriage. If anything, living with another person reduces expenses because your bills are shared (if the other person is working). On another note, to generate additional income, you could rent out a room in your house. I would definitely be doing this, if I were you. People I know at Intel and Microsoft, when starting out, stacked into a house with a bunch of other colleagues so expenses were extremely low, meanwhile, plowing savings into the stock market. I know of one Intel guy that's younger than you who is doing this right now. He gets excited when Intc drops, because then he can afford to buy even more of it - he's great. Like you, he is very frugal. RE: "I would have had more money saved up for this phase of my life. Unfortunately, government had already decided that while I was single, I could not be trusted to save my money and put it to good use. Now I'm married, so the government now figures I could use more of the money I earn every year. Geez, why wasn't I allowed to save as much money as I could while I was single?" Totally agree with you here. The govt penalizes savers and discourages responsible behavior. Ridiculous. Check out this guy: Ridge has 210k to 875k networth at age 58. Given his networth, it's a given he'll be coming after your fica, when he retires, nevermind the fact that he should have saved more money during his working career. And he was the Governor of a State too. cnn.com RE: "pretty soon my wife will start working, and we'll come close to Kerry's cut-off point for the "rich" City folks get hugely penalized by the govt's taxation system. The govt thinks that CA and NY cost of living is the same as Alabama. This is why people move to cheaper places. But I don't think you have to do that, just hang in there and keep your costs low, and try to save as much as you can right now. Couples finances are like corporations - those couples that take advantage of a downturn get stronger, those that don't, are at risk of getting weaker. RE: "But then my wife isn't sure she wants to continue working after we get our first child" Pharmacies have great flexible, part-time hours. Makes sense to always maintain certification and do some minimal hours of work. RE: "which means our ability to save for the future will be curtailed." The govt penalizes savers. Congress is controlled by a bunch of spendaholics. Regards, Amy J