To: J. C. Dithers who wrote (89760 ) 11/27/2004 10:34:30 AM From: epicure Read Replies (1) | Respond to of 108807 I don't think anyone should be labeled an arch conservative- unless, of course, they call themselves that. IMO you can call yourself something, and should be prepared to have other people accept the label you made up about yourself (although it's probably not a good idea even to do that, but it's hard not to.) I don't know WHO you WERE talking about. Maybe it IS someone who is not a "friend"- friendship being another stupid idea for purely net based relationships, imo. The people I consider real friends, I have MET and assessed in person, I doubt you were talking about one of those people. People on the net tend to think everyone who thinks like they do is a "friend" and everyone who doesn't is a foe- sheer madness, imo, unless you want to have a lot of foes. Was this label arch conservative given to you personally, or were the people talking about you, while you sat there, watching them? If said directly to you it's less rude (imo) but still worthy of a stern talking to. Now your post could exemplify arch conservative thinking- and it's ok (imo, of course, we can differ here) to label an idea as arch conservative. But to discuss the "decency" of people is way way out of bounds. Has anyone called you decent or indecent to your face? I'd be happy to have a little talk with them. I do have many aliases on ignore, and I refuse to deal with the posts I cannot read, because I don't read them for a very good reason. I'm also not going to travel to other threads. However, if you see an example of rudeness here- if you see a post which labels someone, or if you see a post where two or more people are discussing a poster, and more importantly, the real characteristics of that poster (which, I would argue they can't possibly know- and as such, merely become an outgrowth of their own feelings about the poster) then yes, I will address it. You may need to call offending posts to my attention, though, because I don't even read all the posts that I do see on the thread. Some posts I just skip, because they are worthless posts for me, but don't rise to the level in number or behavior that I ignore them with the ignore function (and I have no idea what the posters themselves are like, nor do I make any comment about who might be making those posts I skip).