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To: Tenchusatsu who wrote (213610)	12/20/2004 12:15:52 AM
From: Amy J	Read Replies (2) \| Respond to of 1577893

RE: "All I can say is that I feel it is worse among Asian cultures. At least here there is an effort to tell girls and young women that they don't need plastic surgery to be beautiful." -------------- I agree. It's also demographic dependent. The more education, the less hooked they are on it. But overall, it's horrible over there. One of my Asian friends (not a close friend, once you hear the story you'll realize why), she just went nuts over her daughter's looks. She has a lovely daughter, but all she does is criticize her looks and her weight. It's horrible the way she criticizes her - in American society it would be considered extremely inappropriate behavior for a mother to criticize her daughter's looks. I told my friend that she shouldn't impose her own lack of self-esteem onto her daughter. I told her, your daughter looks great to me, the problem is you. Yeesh. What a nasty thing for a mother to do to a daughter. But way too common in Asian culture. If she focused on health issues, rather than external looks that would be a different matter. I asked my friend if she cared about her daughter's weight because she's concerned over her health. My friend said, what health issue? She was simply concerned about her daughter's looks because she said she wouldn't find any guys to date when she gets older. Her daughter wasn't even overweight. She looked like a typical American. Granted, she had more weight than a typical Asian, but this is America and there's absolutely nothing wrong with a little bit of healthy padding, provided it's in a healthy range of normal weight - which her daughter was. I asked my friend, so if you are concerned about her weight from a health standpoint (which she wasn't), why don't you do some exercise with her yourself? : ) Probably a factor of 10X to maybe 100X's worse than it is here. What is so baffling to me is their concept of "fixing" their looks. An obsession almost. As if there is something wrong with a person. By the way, part of this obsession on image is exactly why many Asians have an extremely hard time treating the mentally retarded with open regard. Perfection is paramount. But only external perfection. Perfection of image. Not what really matters - the heart and soul. According to my Asian friend, they apparently still hide mentally retarded family members rather than bring them out in public like you would any family member. I think the most important thing is how a person carries and conduct themselves. Look at twins. If one carries themselves with confidence, they tend to look a lot better than one that doesn't. Best thing a parent can do is to give confidence. RE: "Asian cultures are much more manic depressive than Western cultures, so maybe this is just a generational phase." I didn't follow this part. How so? Western culture seems more chaotic by comparison. Take a look at the photo again. Notice how her cheeks sag? Why pay money to make your cheeks sag - she would eventually get that for free in a few decades. Regards, Amy J