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To: shades who wrote (28737)3/25/2005 10:18:56 AM
From: zonderRead Replies (4) | Respond to of 306849
 
Why couldn't I have ANY say in wether my child lived or died?

Sure, you have a say. Whether or not that "say" will be convincing to the woman depends on a lot of factors.

it would not have hijacked her life, she could have given up mothership if she wanted

Do you have ANY idea whatsoever on what pregnancy does to a woman? Have you ever had two full months of gut-wrenching sickness that left you so unable to eat anything that you had to be hospitalized so you can be fed intravenously? Can you even imagine gaining 15-20 kgs, your feet growing up one size, your internal organs squeezing to one side so that you are constantly constipated not to mention the breathing difficulties towards the end?

If you think that's hard, take a look at what "birth" actually entails. Imagine passing a bowling ball through your bowels - that can't be something you will do just because someone else asks you to, is it? Do please look up things that regularly happen during birth, such as 3rd & 4th degree tears, scar tissue, along with the words episiotomy and fistula. Then maybe you will understand why your ex-fiancee didn't say "Oh OK then, I'll have this kid that I don't want to raise and give it to you".

Since you didn't want to continue your relationship with this woman anyway after this incident, you should have found a new partner to share your life and have children with.

Or having failed that, you could have hired the services of a surrogate mother.



To: shades who wrote (28737)3/25/2005 1:41:11 PM
From: Haim R. BranisteanuRespond to of 306849
 
Sorry to hear your experience and can understand you - send you a PM in this regard