To: Bread Upon The Water who wrote (1245 ) 9/1/2006 10:22:17 AM From: Rambi Read Replies (2) | Respond to of 1695 And your reasoning seems to rely on the belief that things can't change regardless of how modern society has made it possible for them to do so. You are late to the game. Society has already acted on many of the largest issues that forced women into secondclass citizenship. Having already agreed that there can't be biological parity between men and women, I am not sure why that means men can't adjust to women putting on shoes, taking birth control, and having a life that includes the mind and the outside world. I hear many stories about men not wanting their wives to stay home because they want the income. This is just as terrible as women leaving their children in inadequate childcare to pursue a career ahead of their family's welfare. But I also know many, many women who postpone or quit career paths to stay home, with the agreement of their husbands. This is what I see as the ideal solution-- a partnership that allows for mutually satisfying roles and choices. I believe that's the balance we are now in the process of establishing. I am sure you are aware that the advent of the mommy raising kids in the way we believe best is also a pretty new concept. CHanging roles hardly seems the slouching beast you seem to believe, imo. So please, would you explain to me why our working together to achieve a world where men and women are allowed to pursue satisfying lives, whatever they are, is destructive. Given the changes of the past century, where did you suddenly think, "whoa! that's enough? You can vote, but you can't participate in society the way men do"? It seems you are quite willing to deny this access to women, even though our ability to compete is equal. THe traditional role of protector has changed. As long as people place the welfare of the family first-- and this requires maturity and some sublimation of self on both parts, rather than just the female- we are not on the verge of self-destruction. THe biological role will always be fulfilled. Or as Ian Malcolm so eloquently said in Jurassic Park, "I'm simply saying that life, uh... finds a way."