To: Mike 2.0 who wrote (9513 ) 11/19/1997 7:16:00 PM From: Dwight E. Karlsen Read Replies (3) | Respond to of 22053
Mike, I can tell you that my reactions were not race based, because I didn't know that the baby had dark skin. I didn't follow the case very closely, but the way the media hammered at the story, one would have to live under a rock not to have heard the main story. What people who feel sorry for the au pair woman should be thinking is, "would I want this person to baby-sit for my children"? Incidently, a couple of years ago there was a case in Oregon where a worker in a day-care center was accused of smothering a child who was laying in bed and wouldn't stop crying. This day-care center apparently took nap-time very seriously (the child was supposed to be sleeping, but wouldn't). I sure don't remember a shred of sympathy for the accused in that case. The defense presented the case as an accidental smothering, and I don't remember what the outcome of the case was. I personally think this "au pair" thing was a case of Nationalism. If the au pair (whatever the heck that means, and no I don't care -g-) person had been an average overweight American, I doubt we would have heard boo about the case. Let me ask you: did you hear of the Oregon baby smothering a couple years ago? I bet not. One more story: When I was 14-15 years old, I did some baby-sitting occasionally for a brother-in-law's brother's family. They had 3 or 4 kids, youngest was one and oldest was under 10 years old. One time the one-year-old screamed and cried from the moment the parents walked out the door. For three and a half hours I was stuck trying to comfort this screaming baby, while the 2 year old attempted to tell me what she (the baby) wanted. A 4 year old translated what the 2 year old was trying to say, but of course nothing worked, because what the baby wanted was Mama, and I wasn't it. The minute the car door slammed outside, that baby stopped crying, and when the door opened, an angelic smile broke out on that baby's face. Sure my nerves were frazzled, but not once did I attempt to force the baby to be quiet. I didn't baby-sit for them after that, and never saw much of the family. A couple of years ago I saw a young woman in a restaurant who looked somewhat familiar. She was surrounded by her late-teenage friends, a smiling, flirting, happy socialite. I asked the person I was with if they knew who the woman was, and when they told me who it was, I remembered that this was the same girl that had cried for over three hours straight while I held her, when she was one year old. About a year after that this girl was engaged to be married. Now can you imagine if, when she was one, I had "accidently" smothered her and killed her, and then I was set free just because a bunch of bleeding hearts decided they wanted someone to feel sorry for that week? I can't imagine that. DK