To: TobagoJack who wrote (82063 ) 10/24/2011 10:15:46 PM From: Maurice Winn 3 Recommendations Read Replies (1) | Respond to of 218306 TJ, there is indeed an english expression, "No good deed goes unpunished". <believe there is a similar sentiment saying in english, say "it doesn't pay to be the good guy" or some such. > I was warned about that in earnest 40 years ago by an Irish bloke I was working with. Some small children used to stop on the way home from school and look in the holes we were digging in the road [soil testing for Auckland City Council] and chat to us. One day we were in the dairy up the road and the kids came by. I bought them a little bag of lollies to share. When we left, the Irish guy told me that was crazy!! "If anything happens to any of those children, they'll be coming looking for you." I told him I'm not going to live my life according to such fears. About the same time I gave a hitch hiker a ride and got a similar sentiment from somebody about the dangers of helping [ I had enjoyed hitch-hiking myself many many times as an impoverished hitch-hiker so was happy to reciprocate to other strangers]. I forget the details. I prefer to intercede in life. Though of course I am judicious. When traveling around India, my wife pointed out that I could not change India. Maybe not. But as my mother said decades ago, while she couldn't change things, she could change the tiny sphere of influence she had at the time, albeit of an ephemeral nature. She used to visit an Alzheimer aunt and the same sentiment was expressed - "A minute after you have gone, she doesn't know you were there. Why bother?" As my mother explained, that's true, but while she was there, her aunt did know she was there. As my mother said to a Christian who stopped to speak with her while my mother was out taking somebody for a walk in a wheelchair, when the passerby said on parting "Well, I must get on with my good Christian works too", "Yes, and I must get on with my good atheist works"... The Christian was surprised, stopped and asked "You aren't really an atheist are you?" to which my mother explained "Oh yes, and we atheists must do good things in THIS life and make things good now because there is no beyond or foregiveness or second chances for atheists. We have to get it right first time, every time." Or words to that effect. Between the Christians and atheists in the "free" world, you'd be hard pressed to get a re-run of the little girl left squashed on the road. But for a more horrific story you could mention My Lai. en.wikipedia.org Active evil is another dimension altogether compared with failing to offer assistance in an accident, or blundering and escaping. France conducted the only foreign terrorist attack in NZ with the bombing of the Rainbow Warrior in my own harbour. I went to have a look. With friends like France, Great Britain, and USA, one doesn't really need enemies. China hasn't attacked NZ. Mqurice