To: Jacques Chitte who wrote (17505 ) 2/7/1998 12:02:00 PM From: Grainne Respond to of 108807
Thanks, Alex, for pointing out that gay men and women ARE wired differently, that this happens due to a complicated constellation of genetic, pre-natal, and developmental factors, and that they are not INMMORAL just because they are attracted to their own sex in love relationships. I would agree that gay couples in committed relationships should enjoy the tax and insurance benefits that other married couples enjoy, and be able to enjoy the ritual of bonding, ceremonial proclamations of their union, and be able to live openly before the entire world. Whether we want to do this with the same kind of marriage that we have now for heterosexuals is still open to debate in America, but creating incentives for maintaining stable, long-term relationships is of enormous benefit to society as a whole. Historically, many societies have created roles of respect, honor and magic for their gay members. This is nothing new, and a certain percentage of people are gay, period. This is not something they can change. Why force them to live tortured lives, hidden and guilt-ridden, under the circumstances? It seems so unfair, and extends even to schools, where gay children feel ridiculed, pressured, have almost no one to talk to who understands, and commit suicide at a much higher rate than heterosexual children. Of course, it is the religious far right who does this to them in America, making sure that there is no sex education for them, no counseling, and ensuring that they are the outcasts of our society. Even the Pope has come out recently, counselling the parents of gay children to love and accept them as they are. Surely we can all do the same.