To: epicure who wrote (16161 ) 6/8/2001 7:25:32 AM From: Lane3 Read Replies (1) | Respond to of 82486 You aren't inviting people home that you don't like (I'm betting). You probably don't spend a lot of time talking to people you find really annoying. You are...being unfair and moderating them out of your life. Of course I don't bother with people I don't like. Life is a marketplace. We pick and choose what we like and bypass the rest. I don't see anything unfair about that. Rubbing their noses in it is another matter. If I go to the Saturday morning farmer's market and buy raspberries and peaches, I'm not hurting the apples in any way. Say that, while I'm there, I run into Jim and invite him over for a get-together. Then I run into Sue and I invite her. Then I run into Sally, exchange pleasantries with her, but don't invite her. I haven't hurt Sally any more than I hurt the apple. If I run into all three of them together and invite two but tell Sally she's not invited... Not only am I unnecessarily communicating with her that I don't like her, I'm humiliating her in public. Moderation on SI is usually quite public.Making a bigger deal than that about it is just plain silliness. I don't want to make a big deal about it. Tim said he didn't understand why others might consider it an issue and I offered some insights, which he acknowledged. I'm not lobbying against moderated threads, only trying to help air all the considerations. Cultural anthropology is of interest to me academically. The quality of the society we live in is of interest to me, personally. If you didn't have Greg on ignore, you would probably have noticed the change in the tenor of his posting since the Island incident. Looked to me like he got his feelings hurt. Did he deserve it? Maybe. He charged the island rather than seeking permission to come aboard. And he was booted, temporarily as it turned out. Great human tragedy? I think not. We're not talking about Sudan here. But he and Solon have been scrapping ever since. Who needs it?! Karen