To: Lizzie Tudor who wrote (5034 ) 9/23/1998 10:02:00 PM From: Dwight E. Karlsen Read Replies (1) | Respond to of 67261
Michelle, PETA? -RFLOL- That's gotta be one of the zanier groups. I would much prefer to belong to AETP: "Animals for the Ethical Treatment of People". It makes more sense: We are at least expected to act ethically, because we are civilized. Animals are downright animalistic (at least at times :-)). >>This is one thing I AM curious about. Is it just the fact that there is testosterone in the household, or what? << Well, a little testosterone goes a long way sometimes. Our receptionist at work was "truly impressed" when I brought in my handy-dandy socket set and proceeded to remove the bolts and take apart our paper shredder, which had ceased working. :-) The act was complete when I put it back together and it worked again. I had to disable the circuit which acted as a safeguard so the machine doesn't start up unless a piece of paper is pushed into the slot, but hey, it shreds paper again, and we didn't have to buy a new shredder or send it to a repair shop. (No, I didn't call Ralph Nader to ask if this was a recommended fix -vbg-). >>Take for example, a normal child being raised by retarded parents. Is that acceptable to the RR if there is a father there? Because many would argue that a child will suffer in that climate. << Retarded parents: I think this is an extreme example, since I don't know of any retarted adult who has even become a parent. I do know of a person who had a baby only about five years after having several fairly lengthly bouts with schizophrenia. It is little to no consolation to me that her live-in boyfriend is an unemployed druggie. If you've never seen a person suffering from schizphrenia, let me tell you, it's scary. At one point this woman had to strapped to a bed with arm and leg restraints. Now it's true that this woman hasn't had a bout with schizophrenia in many years, and I don't know the historical probabilities of more schizophrenic outbreaks. But it's scary that she's trying to raise a child, and I hope that the state and her parents are monitoring the situation closely, ready to swoop in and take the child into protective custody.If you were going to place a child for adoption in a 2-parent household of ex-felons vs. a 1 parent wealthy woman executive which would you choose? I'm not sure, because it would depend on the specific details. What if it was two perjury felons? -LOL- I actually would not weight the 1 parent woman executive at half the weight of two parents. I would look at the personalities of the would-be-parents. Again, I'm not vehemently opposed to 1-parent households. People do have rights to raise kids if they please, whether it's one person or two. For example, I would *always* wish that a single pregnant woman chose to bear and raise her child rather than aborting it. But do I think its a great idea for a woman to do like Madonna did? Put it this way: I have feelings of sympathy for the child. I think it's unfortunate and sad that Madonna evidently made a purposeful choice to exclude the biological father. If that person was unacceptable to be a father, I think it was irresponsible to plan to bear a child with that person as the biological father. But if the biological father is nevertheless unacceptable or later proved to be, then I think that Madonna would be doing right for her child if she did some serious husband shopping. >Or for example a father is abusive, is it then also preferable to have him around vs. non? < Well no. If a father is abusive, then I'm all for booting him out: I think he should be booted out. The child's welfare comes first. Keeping in mind that there are lots and lots of areas of grey in these matters, but in general if one focuses on the welfare of the child, you'll be on the right track. IMO Ever notice that single childless people often have the best child-rearing advice? -ggg-